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Physically Distanced but Socially Connected Holidays

Physically Distanced but Socially Connected Holidays

We love fall and winter holidays. Every year, we look forward to celebrating with food, decorations, gatherings with friends and family, and other traditions, but holiday celebrations in any given year can be hard. It’s a challenging and overwhelming time for many families, especially if money is tight or stress and family conflict overshadow the spirit of joy and giving. In 2020, the holiday season will certainly be different because of COVID-19, but we can still find ways to be physically distanced while staying socially connected with friends and family.

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 Dear CPI,

Do you have tips for handling family gatherings during the holidays? My partner comes from a big family that celebrates major holidays together. His siblings are tired of social distancing and think the family should get together like usual because “it’s tradition.” Our kids adore their cousins and will be disappointed if we don’t see them at all during the holidays, but I worry about being around so many people. I don’t want to fight with my partner, but I also don’t want to spend the holidays worrying about—or getting—COVID. What should I do?

Tony


Dear Tony,

Thanks for your question! Holiday celebrations will need to be different this year to prevent the spread of COVID-19. As the weather gets colder and (hopefully) rainier this winter, it might not even be possible or enjoyable to hold outdoor celebrations. So this is a good time to develop a plan for safe, healthy holiday celebrations. Here are some tips to try:

Talk with your partner about your hopes and worries about the holidays. Find a time when you’re not tired or rushed so you’re both able to stay calm and present. Start the conversation by saying that you don’t expect to agree on everything but are hoping you can listen to each other and agree on a holiday plan you can both live with. Take turns describing your hopes for celebrating holidays during the pandemic and any worries or concerns about the family’s health and safety. Focus on listening to and understanding each other’s point of view before responding, and avoid criticizing or dismissing each other’s hopes and worries.

Treat public health guidance as “a neutral third person” in your discussion. Check state and local public health rules and guidance for holiday gatherings and travel, and look at the COVID-19 trends in the communities where you and your family members live. This can help you and your partner make an informed decision about whether a modified, safe family gathering is possible, or if holiday gatherings are too risky, particularly for family members who are at higher risk for severe illness if they get COVID-19.

Be flexible and consider low-risk holiday activities. Although many families start making holiday plans months in advance, that will be tricky this year. COVID-19 cases could rise again, so plans that are made even a few weeks in advance might need to change in response to heightened health and safety concerns. If the uncertainty about COVID makes holiday planning too stressful, consider choosing low-risk activities that your family will do, no matter what. This is the safest option that will allow you to enjoy the holidays while minimizing the risk for getting sick and missing out on work, school, family time, or other holiday celebrations. Examples of low-risk holiday activities include:

  • A holiday meal with only the people who live in your household.
  • A virtual holiday celebration with extended family and/or friends. Make it fun by sharing recipes, playing games, or giving family members different tasks like creating a music playlist or planning a virtual scavenger hunt.
  • A drive-by, no-contact visit with family members who live nearby.
  • Watching sports events, parades, and movies from home instead of in the community.
  • A neighborhood “parade” where families display festive signs, decorations, or other holiday items in their windows or yards, then walk or bike (maintaining physical distance) through the neighborhood to admire each other’s displays.

FINAL THOUGHTS: The public health guidelines to maintain physical distance, wear masks, and limit nonessential travel are likely to be our reality for a while, but we can still find ways to safely enjoy the holidays—and even discover new ways to celebrate that become family traditions for years to come.

Community Partners