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Giving Thanks

Giving Thanks

In the last year at the Child Parent Institute, we were able to help nearly 8,000 families receive our services. We are thankful to be part of the community in Sonoma County that supports children and families. We could not have done this without the help of dedicated and generous board members, employees, donors and volunteers.  We are grateful to our supporters who help make our programs available and create a stronger and healthier community. 

I often start this monthly column with a true story about my experiences as a parent. Writing about my own parenting challenges is like giving myself free therapy. I relive memories of difficult situations, work through my emotions in a safe environment (my office, with a lot of coffee), find the humor in nearly every parenting struggle I’ve ever faced, then end up feeling proud that I’ve managed to figure things out and have ended up with two amazing kids. Now that’s something to be thankful for.

This article is created by Nicole Young, the mother of two children, ages 14 and 17, who also manages Santa Cruz County's Triple P - Positive Parenting Program. Scientifically proven, Triple P is available locally through the Child Parent Institute. Our classes are listed at calparents.org/classes

Dear Child Parent Institute, 

I know this isn’t your typical parenting question, but can you share some ideas for being thankful and staying positive? I get upset every time I read or hear the news these days and become very worried about the kind of world my kids are growing up in. My partner tells me to focus on the positive and be thankful for what we have, but that’s hard for me to do. I could use some ideas. Thanks.

Josh

Dear Josh,

This is a perfect time of year to remind ourselves of the things we’re thankful for. Researchers have found that people who are thankful tend to feel happier, be healthier, be able to handle challenging situations, and build strong relationships. The good news is we don’t have to wait for big celebrations or material gifts to practice being thankful. Here are some ideas to try:

Identify at least one thing you are thankful for each day. It can be something big and significant – like getting a new job or a promotion – or something that seems small but makes you smile – like waking up to a fresh pot of coffee or getting hugs from your children. When you start identifying one thing you’re thankful for each day, you’re more likely to become aware of and focus on other things that make you feel grateful, peaceful, content, or happy.

Build a list of the things you’re thankful for. Write down the things you’re thankful for each day. As the list grows, use it to remind yourself of the things that feel good or are going well in your life. This can help counteract the strong emotions that come up when you hear about or experience negative or stressful events.

Thank your partner for the things they do for the family. It’s common for parents to get so busy with work, managing kids’ schedules, paying the bills, and keeping up with housework that they forget to notice each other. Saying a simple and sincere “thank you” when your partner does things like make a meal or handles a child’s tantrum is a great way to show you notice and appreciate their efforts. This can make your partner more likely to notice and appreciate your everyday efforts, too.

Express your appreciation to other people who make your life easier or more enjoyable. This could include friends, family, and neighbors who provide physical, emotional, spiritual, or other types of support when you need it. It could also include child care providers, teachers, bus drivers, health care providers, librarians, faith leaders, cashiers, wait staff – and anyone else that does something kind or helpful for you and your family. There’s a good chance you’ll make someone’s day, just by showing you appreciate their work.

Set a good example for your children by giving thanks to them and in front of them. One of the ways that children learn how to get along, cooperate, and problem-solve with others is by watching, listening to, and imitating people around them. Let your children overhear you thanking your partner and other people. When your children do something that is kind or helpful, say “Thank you,” and tell them what you are thanking them for. This is a form of giving descriptive praise, which is a helpful parenting strategy that encourages children to do more of the positive behavior.

Final Thoughts: Take time to pause and reflect on the things that are going well and make you feel content. When we make thankfulness a daily habit, it can improve our own physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. And being thankful is usually contagious – like smiling and yawning. The more we give thanks, the more others will, too. That’s an idea worth spreading.

Sincerely, 

Child Parent Institute

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